“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.(Matthew 7:1-5, ESV)
Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment.” (John 7:24, ESV)
So which is it? Is it OK to judge someone or not? The answer is yes and no! A careful study of the New Testament gives many examples of Jesus and his Apostles making judgments on ungodly behavior. We are called to discern between good and evil. And the Bible is certainly full of moral absolutes. But Jesus clearly warns us against hypocritical behavior. We must avoid the kind of judgement that comes from a critical self-righteous attitude that looks down on others.
If I warn someone that I care about not to drive 75 miles an hour in a 55 mph zone, that would be a good kind of judgement. I would be looking out for their best interest, even if they didn’t agree with my advice. The bottom line is that no one is sinless. So, our goal as followers of Jesus is to lovingly and humbly share the teachings of Scripture and to address un-biblical behavior. If you are a disciple of Jesus you have a responsibility to share the biblical view on moral issues even if it sounds offensive. We now live in a post-Christian society so we must accept the fact that we will probably be misunderstood.
Ultimately it’s all about the motives of our heart.